Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
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Thursday, January 17, 2008

The Shadow Puppet Theatre

We have already demonstrated that in all the breadth and width of human society and the interpersonal relationships of people there is a ‘give and take’ which in most cases, instead of being constructive and of promoting the co-existence and co-development of both sides so that the outcome would be far greater than anyone can imagine, it is competitive: that is to say, it is a continual battle of imposition and enforcement by one side against the other.

So?

So, in the majority of interactions (from a simple conversation on the phone to a famous trial to a typical visit to be informed about students’ performance at school) there is a ‘competition’ about who ‘will come out on top/ will score/ will shut up/ show the proper place/ will trump’ the other person.

What does this mean?

This means that we willingly deprive ourselves from many things we could have gained while in the same time we burden ourselves with negative feelings which we could have avoided as well as entire ideas or points of view about the cosmos which take ground in our conscience absolutely and without discussion.

How do we manage that?

Two contestants are not the same as two cooperators. The contestants have very different goals and motives than the cooperators:

A. The contestants seek for one to win over the other regardless of the achievement or not of a goal that is useful to the general public.

B. That means they seek to prove that their point of view is in every way superior to that of the other contestant.

C. That means that in order to win they will have to deny or shoot down every single one of the opponent’s views regardless of whether they should or shouldn’t, or they will lose.

D. That means that the process is not a process of advancement and improvement for either of the two contestants but one that is destructive for at least one of the two if not both, which is usually the case.

On the contrary,

A. The cooperators both seek to prevail/ win/ achieve/ conquer a goal which is generally useful to a particular group.

B. That means that they are ‘open’ and seek to enrich or finetune their views so that they will better and more effectively reach their goal.

C. That means they gladly accept, seek and incorporate all the sides and angles which with the correct composition and evaluation create the point of view or the method which will bring about the achievement of their target regardless of whether these sides and angles come from their own thought process or that of their cooperator.

D. That means that the process is one of advancement and improvement for both the cooperators and it additionally offers chances for improvement and progress for each one of the cooperators individually. Also, the gain for each one on a social, personal and existential level is in great multiples than the uncertain gain one would have through a process of antagonism and undermining of the other.

Therefore, when we force ourselves but also other people to continually antagonize and compete with each other in order to discover who is the winner- free bondsman and who is the loser-subjugated free bondsman, what we certainly induce is the perfect absence of any type of progress and improvement of individuals and certainly (as we have already demonstrated with the babushkas) the complete absence of progress, development and improvement of society and social environment.

Additionally, as we see from our everyday interactions with other people that with antagonism and competition (relationships that ‘don’t work/ don’t flow/ don’t hit off well/ don’t do it/ lead nowhere/ suffocate/ stifle’ as well as a sensation of helplessness and weakness that ‘there’s nothing to be done/ that’s what everyone does/ what can one do?/ nothing can be corrected/ the way we’ve fallen…/ it’s no use’) we induce fully the mathematical progression towards degeneration and spoiling of our person as well as the social whole.


Yes, but emulation/competition helps progress, doesn’t it?

No, it doesn’t. Not because the basic idea and concept is wrong, but because just like in so many things it is interpreted and applied in almost complete disaccordance between the idea and its application.


What do we mean by this?

Let’s analyze what we mean by beginning as we should always begin: with the definition of ideas, that is to say précising what this ‘emulation’ means and what it doesn’t.

Emulation: “Ambition to equal or excel.

Effort to equal or surpass another”[1]

To emulate: “Strive to equal or match, especially by imitating;

Compete with successfully; approach or reach equality with”[2]


We therefore see here that ‘emulation’ as a term has two facets which are not actually clear or in complete accordance between them:


If I strive to be your equal or surpass someone, I definitely am not or do not consider myself equivalent to that person.


If I try to compete with someone, not only am I not interested in my improvement or his/her own, but on the contrary, I am interested in beating him/her in all counts, exactly like the soldier during war: my purpose is victory regardless of my quality or that of my opponent.


Therefore I will do anything to achieve victory without any thought on ideology or means or even if this actually harms, undermines and negates my real capacities. This fact is greatly illustrated in the more and more reported cases of athletes who are arrested or confess to using substances or other tactics which will give them a momentary edge in their sport without being interested whether they would have truly conquered the level of skill and ability which is symbolized by the medal they are pandering to. There are also swingeing cases of champion athletes who have suffered great problems of health (bodily, psychological and social) after their withdrawal from the sport in which they were competing.


Both occurrences prove the great size of the destruction by competition and ‘emulation’ induced in all levels.


This is the one side of emulation which is applied but never accurately spelled out.

The other side of emulation refers to how all sides are equal (or potentially so) and are governed by a mutual need for some improvement through competition, but this improvement (in terms of its kind and level) almost always is vague. However, through competition or emulation we cannot have either equality or individual or group improvement with actual gain on all levels, but on the contrary we have the onset of complete disaster as we saw above. On the contrary, we saw that in order to have equality and group improvement on all levels cooperation must exist.




Yes, but through emulation several breakthroughs were achieved. Isn’t that what we are told?


This is not actually true but actually a distortion of a basic truth about all breakthroughs (positive and negative alike) that have been achieved throughout humanity’s course.

A breakthrough is the result of two basic ingredients: need and experimentation. A need of either the individual for answers/solutions or of the group’s for survival. Experimentation for the satisfaction of this need by at least one and most of the times several more individuals who try out several approaches towards the goal, learn what they should pay attention to, avoid, correct and/or improve and so are led to the breakthrough which affects positively or negatively the entire social group.


There never was found a breakthrough or solution through a competition the goal of which was to evaluate, spotlight and reward one sole individual but did not have any other purpose.



Yes, but there are competitions of innovations or talent which do bring forth breakthroughs or talents.

This is inaccurate as well and the misinterpretation is mainly due to the tendency there exist not to use exactitude when we express ourselves and end up using one term for several similar but profoundly different concepts. These types of competitions which do bring forth breakthroughs of talents are not competitions but the greek word ‘συναγωνισμός’ which can best be described in English as ‘co-run’. What do we mean by that?


A target is presented to all participants with specific parameters and full freedom is allowed in the method and way of achieving this target. Cooperation and exchange of ideas is possible and in the most successful co-runs it is a given. If this does not exist and what we are measuring is not the achievement of the target but the individual itself in an evaluation context, then the competition is truly a competition which, just like we showed above never yields a breakthrough or a talent either objectively or in its full expression ( either the ‘talent’ is nothing but a result of techniques meant to impress and not actually there or, when there is actual talent, it is canalized and hemmed in until it is stifled by the social and financial pressuring emanating from the competition). Let’s just consider how much success or gain is to be had from competitions like Eurovision, American Idol or even the Olympic Games, beauty pageants and soccer/football/etc: no objective gain or success is to be had either for the spectators or even for the contestants since many times the material gain (because there actually is no other) is given to a contestant not because of his/her skill or ability or talent but because of the misleading/limiting criteria and the subjective opinion of one or more judges.



In future articles we will analyze exactly how something which can seem objective in essence is subjective and fabricated.



So, who benefits from the competitions?


The one who first comes to mind is the winner of the competition. In competitions like the ones we mentioned the winner wins glory, fame, financial gain, positions coveted in society, etc.



But is it true that the winner wins these?


In reality the winner doesn’t win all these things because they are not the natural and logical result of his/her achievement (e.g. to run fast is not in essence an exploitable ability by the person who has it, that same speedy runner, in a way that will ensure his freedom, independence and autonomy in today’s society) but a non-controllable by the competitor reward which is controlled by other agents and by other criteria which have nothing to do with the winner’s talent or competence (that is to say, the competitor cannot use his/her achievement in order to gain or earn what he/she is given beyond the limits and stipulations of the specific contest alone, and so therefore he/she cannot use their achievement to survive if that is not allowed by others.


Consequently he/she is forever in a dependent and uncertain position which he/she may or may not keep even if he/she retains or even improves the achievement if others do not want it to be so). In this manner the winner does not feel the assurance and certainty of a winner who, having achieved this goal moves on to higher ones belonging to more advanced developmental levels, but instead senses the uncertainty and insecurity of a person who is sitting on an unstable chair upon a time bomb- since his/her win is nullified with the obligation and pressure put upon him/her.


Who is really the one who has control?

Certainly it has already been hinted at that the one who has control is the one who is not competing. The one who is not competing is not the one who watches passively and without interacting with contest parameters which are specific and objective. That is just the spectator who cannot but be a receiver of a situation with which it is irrelevant whether the spectator agrees or disagrees and whose opinion is never asked as a true lever affecting the competition. The spectator is hurt by the competition as much as the contestant is because he/she is given the false and misleading message that they have no effect or influence in his/her environment (social, personal, state, work) and he/she is being taught to take blows and rape of his/her personality and his/her opinion without him/her trying at all for a substantial reaction.


The spectator just like the competitor learn through the contest to be free bondsmen (since they believe they were the ones they chose freely to do what they do and react the way they react) and instead of being full personalities with multiple facets they limit themselves to being two-dimensional and shallow expressions of themselves just like the figures of a Shadow Puppet Theatre.


In the same token, the same occurs in the case of the judges of the competition who are similar to the cloth against which the figures of the Shadow Puppet Theatre press in order to be visible: They aren’t free to judge the contestants as they would like but just like every free bondsman is free to judge as they are enforced to, regardless of their opinion (much is the historical evidence where judges were forbidden to yield a winner because for political, financial or other reasons it was necessary to pick another winner, more accommodating to the promotional campaign of those truly controlling the competition). Otherwise, their own position and reputation is subject to and controlled by others who truly control the show.



So who does truly control and benefit from competitions?

In our Shadow Puppet Theatre, that would be the Shadow Puppeteer. He/she is the one who controls all the figures and stretches the cloth they press on as he/she likes but cannot be seen nor does he/she present him/herself, though his/her voice is heard, camouflaged as the voice of the figures he/she is holding.



How can we discover who the Puppeteer of the several different competitions is?

Through asking some very simple questions which we will list next time.



[1] Webster’s Online Dictionary

[2] Webster’s Online Dictionary

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Who Benefits from the Crime?

All the values and ideas permeating our lives are interconnected in meaning and relationships. Therefore the secret in understanding truly and on our own, without the need for interpretation by an ‘expert’ who offers to give as decrees some answers but refrains from offering the liberating and truly enlightening logical process through which he/she arrived at that decree, is to look with our own highly able logic in order to find the manner of connection of the ideas and situations in our everyday life and beyond.

What do we mean by that?

We arm ourselves with a system of questions to which we do not accept answers that are not to the point, but of the variety: “ that’s the way it is, that’s what everyone does, etc”. We also do not accept answers which are inappropriate and off topic and usually are of the variety: “you are cruel, you are insolent, you are stupid, how dare you, do you think that’s the way to speak to me, etc etc”.

We arm ourselves with courage, which means we find our answers to the questions without being afraid of what this answer will be or will show about society, our family, our life, for two reasons:

a) whatever it is, since it is part of the to the point answer to our question, it was pre-existing in our lives and was affecting us anyway. Therefore it is something that should not threaten or scare us because we have already been coping with it and have decidedly survived it under the worse of conditions since we had not even been aware of it at all. Therefore now we are given the chance to do anything we want concerning what we just realized much better and with less energy than before, since we now know what it is all about.

b) our worth is not at risk in any way with the fact that we can see our to the point answers to our questions but on the contrary it is augmented because we display advanced intelligence and adult thought.

We must keep in mind that all this process DOES NOT INCREASE OUR RESPONSIBILITY to ourselves and our environment since from the moment we assume the status of the adult individual, all the responsibilities connected with being an adult become ours whether we have realized them or not. Therefore it is to our interest to know the full scope and limits of our responsibilities and our rights so that nobody will be able to assign to us responsibilities that are not ours and steal from us rights we have or rights that belong to those having assumed certain responsibilities.

That is, with the process of finding out and determining true values, responsibilities, rights as well as situations (as they really are, as they are presented to be and as they really should be) WE HAVE ONLY GAIN AND NO LOSS. One would say that this process is one of the few chances/bargains that exist in the world and of course there will be many who will fight tooth and nail and to the end to stop us from acquiring it, and certainly from stop being Free Bondsmen and becoming instantly Free Individuals.

But finally, who are those who want us to be Free Bondsmen?

Here, many would expect an answer of a political nature. However politics is a plateau where, in order to be able to play, we must have completed and perfected our understanding of the plateau of our everyday life and of the people with who we coexist and interact directly. We will see that with mathematical precision the abstract equation of the different forces within politics exists and is applied repeatedly and consistently within our social circles and our family.

What does this mean?

It means that in order for us to understand politics we must first understand the forces and the motives which guide and shape the behavior of the people who consist our family, friends, relatives, acquaintances, colleagues.

The moment that we truly grasp that, is the moment we will be able to read politics like an open book and in the same time see different shapes and sizes of Free Bondsmen.

But who would want a Free Bondsman?

If I were to give the answer right away, I would also be an expert who gives a bit of a spark but does not give the lighter to those who need constant fire. Therefore for that, we will begin from the lighter and you will be the ones to light your flame as befits Free Individuals.

In order to find out who would want a Free Bondsman, we must ask the question that logic demands: “who would benefit from one?”

Why is this the logical question?

Because nobody invests this much strategy, energy and persistence in something that will not yield at least triple his investment. The one who does not need a Free Bondsman, does not concern him/herself by forcing someone else to become one.

Since the beginning of time, one wanted a slave or a subject so that he/she could assign to that slave or subject all the activities requiring effort, courage, power, intelligence, skill, ingenuity, worthiness so that this one would exploit what the slave or the subject would create and produce.

Such a person either believes he/she is lacking in all the above qualities in comparison to the person he/she wants to subjugate or he/she does not want to invest his/her own power and qualities in order to have the corresponding results and gains which, however he/she demands anyway, and under no circumstance wants the slave/subject to realize and therefore reap the results and gains the slave/subject would possess were he/she a Free Individual.

Therefore in order to find who benefits from the existence of Free Bondsmen we would have to look to our environment in order to find persons who:

  1. declare an unfounded, irrational weakness and in the same time forcefully demand the aid of specific others.
  2. with their emotional state they enforce their will and make others capitulate with the fear they inspire of their possible worsening of whatever condition (e.g. “oh no! if ….. learns of it, what will we do?/ how can I say that when all hell will break loose/ what if he/she dies of the emotional shock?/ what if he/she becomes sick?/ etc”)
  3. threaten constantly and with little prompting that they will leave, move, abandon, die, stop financing, call upon god to punish/burn on the spot the environment or a specific person.
  4. they proclaim from the house-top their correct judgment, immaculate behavior, ethics, kindness, religiosity, virtue, cleverness, ability, skill, beauty, etc even if there is proof to the contrary and in the case someone points out that fact they engage in extreme levels of attack and histrionics / manic behaviors which frighten and force the others to say things of this sort: “let him/her be/ that’s the way he/she is/ don’t pay attention to him/her/ you must tolerate/put up with him/her, etc” .
  5. they proclaim from the house-top their extreme ability and in the same time their extreme misfortune that situations/ luck/ God prevented/forbade their social/ familial/ professional/ personal success while in the same time they accuse, envy and reject all other people saying that compared to their worth, these other people don’t deserve what they have. With this approach they enforce themselves on the people for whom they “have sacrificed themselves/ stuck out their necks for/ love to pieces/ etc” and they do not tolerate actual objections with the accusation : “you are an ingrate, you are ungrateful”.
  6. they also treat very warmly every person they envy when these people are present and in general are very absolutist, giving decrees and judgments to everyone in their environment while exempting themselves with phrases of this sort: “ it’s not the same thing with me/ I have nothing to do with this/ it’s not about what I do” and in addition coupling it with an overt or covert condemning remark about the intelligence or the ethics of the person who very intelligently pointed out the use of dual standards.

With these guidelines look around your environment without fear and see who benefits from the crime.

Do not be afraid if you find benefiting people who are very close to you and definitely do not fear if you suspect that some or any of the above characteristics describe you. Just the fact that you suspect it or see it in those around you presents you with a choice which you did not have before:

How do I face and control the situations that affect me knowingly and after my own personal choice of being a Free Individual or not?

The answer of which we will examine in the next post.

Questions, comments and need for communication is always welcome.

Sunday, December 2, 2007

The Free Bondsman

The Free Bondsman

This present blog was created and will exist as a clear and lucid attestation and documentation coupled with scientific analysis on the conditions and forces which create in the individual the following contradiction in terms of behavior and personal identity:

In modern society, especially in the European and Western societies the citizen in particular and the person in general has become A FREE BONDSMAN.

What does that mean and to whom is there blame directed?

The blame (and consequently, the accountability) is directed to far more factors than it seems and it is NOT solely or strictly the responsibility of the citizen him/herself and of the individual him/herself as it is generally preached by the socialization principles of every person.

Invisible but very powerful forces of manipulation on a personal, interpersonal and social level create an impermeable grey area in which everyone is at fault and by virtue of that, nobody is.

But before we begin analyzing the direction of blame and the systematic fogging of the awareness of every well-meaning and conscientious person concerning the process of action-reaction permeating our everyday lives, we must first define what the Free Bondsman really is:

The definition for ‘Free’ is:[1]

a) Able to act at will; not hampered; not under compulsion or restraint

b) Not held in servitude

c) Without obstructions

d) Unrestricted and Unconstrained

On the contrary, the definition of ‘Bondsman’ is:[2]

a) a slave

b) someone who is bound to serve without wages

c) someone who signs a bond as surety for someone else

And to better understand (a) in the definition of Bondsman, a ‘Slave’ is: [3]

a) a person who is held in servitude

b) a person who is not ‘Free’

c) a person who is owned by someone else

Therefore, how do we define The Free Bondsman?

The Free Bondsman is defined as the person who theoretically is free to act at will and evaluate, judge and think of matters without pressures, blackmail or compulsions about what he/she wants to be and how he/she wants to behave. This person truly believes that he/she is truly free and acting or behaving at will, without compulsions, but “within logical limits” .

The Free Bondsman is often inhibited by admonitions and blackmail of the type:

“This is not logical/rational/wise this does not make sense”

“This is simply not done”

“What will the people say?”

“What will _________ say?”

“You only think about yourself/ you are so selfish”

“you are cruel/thick skinned”

“You won’t be the one to say what is right”

“You must have a leader/ herder/ ruler in order to exist well”

“You aren’t able to make this decision/ you can’t make this decision”

“You can’t decide for yourself”

“Nobody will pay attention to you/ heed you even if you do speak out your opinion”

“Let someone else do that/ stick their neck out”

“That’s what everyone does/ this is the way it is/ this can’t change”

etc.

So, when the Free Bondsman reaches the limits of the accepted ‘free’ behavior, in come the shackles of social blackmail and out goes the alleged freedom. There only remains the Bondsman, not at all free, who obeys rules and orders because of fear and the emotional but also actual blackmail enforced on him/her.

In our society, Free Bondsmen are as free as the fish in an aquarium with an artificial background depicting the ocean: they can go anywhere within the constraints of the glass wall-limits and they can see the virtual ocean but they cannot ever experience it…

…ever? Not really. A small team of Free Bondmen have managed to break free of their aquarium, become Free Individuals and ever since they stand up against the efforts by third parties to force them to go back to “their place”.

The process to do the same is simple but not easy, unless we are determined to follow it through. In this case, it is not only simple, clear and manageable, but also really exciting.

And how does one make the first step?

Before we do anything and decide upon anything, we learn what the real setting is and what the real conditions we live in every day are.

We then see who is responsible for what.

We realize the true power all of us without exception have and use daily. As proof of this, just consider the fact that nobody is ever interested in controlling, affecting and subjugating a feeble and generally weak being. On the contrary, a good bondsman/ employee/ inferior/ subject must be extra strong and in possession of many and varied abilities in order to be of use. The feeble and the weak subjects are executed or left to wither and die as they are of no use.

To whom?

That is something we will begin to explore in the next article.

Have you ever felt in this or a similar way? Send me an e-mail with the description of the emotions and the situation pertinent and we will analyze it either here or in private if you prefer that.



[1] Reference from Webster’s Online dictionary http://www.websters-online-dictionary.org/

[2] Reference from Webster’s Online dictionary http://www.websters-online-dictionary.org/

[3] Reference from Webster’s Online dictionary http://www.websters-online-dictionary.org/